The Settlement

There are many thing in life you settle on, a house,a court case, a long term career,but love is not one of them. When in a relationship the words "I can't believe I settled for you", "there are so many people I could be with right now", should never come out of your mouth. When you say those words they can only mean one of two things in a relationship that you are no longer "in love" with your special person or that you are looking else where for affection with someone else. Long distance relationships make it harder especially when someone has said those words out of spite or anger because when you are supposed to be with. The ultimate settlement in Love is settling down and starting a family with your special person and growing old with them. I have found my special somebody and happily settled down with her for the past 10 years with many more to go.

Brownie Points don't Mean Anything

Today I want to discuss what exactly is a "Brownie Point". To me a "brownie point" is a guilt action that needs someone to recognize that you have done something. When in reality it is just a person doing something for a person after they have already done something that they shouldn't have and is trying to make it up to the other person. Guys if you feel like you need to "earn brownie points" then you need to look at yourself and figure out if you have stepped out on your significant other and are using your "guilty points" to make it up to your significant other.

Whats Right In Front of You...

Wow its been a really long time since I decided to sit down and and put fingers to keyboard. Why do guys go looking for other things then what is right in front of them. Need to boost their own ego. Make them feel like all the woman of the world want them or just the need to get themselves off by making a female think that there is a possibility that more will come about just talking. Wife and I don't hide anything from each other so our Facebook tabs are always available for each other to look at. Random guy messages my wife to pay her a compliment about what she looked like when we were at our daughters wedding last year. The compliments were harmless, the problem with it is the fact that he has a GIRLFRIEND. We asked him if his girl knows that he messages random girl and he says "she knows but does't like it". Hello...try being more attentive to the one in front of you then going to look for random people that are mutual friends with a bunch of other mutual friends on Facebook. Guys remember that the Love Languages of woman are very much different then ours. Fill her tank and you both will be happy. Reminder of the 5 Love Language Love language #1: Words of affirmation...Compliments Love language #2: Acts of service....Helping out Love language #3: Gifts....Small trinkits Love language #4: Quality time...Being with each other Love language #5: Physical touch...A hug, back rub etc Till the next time LOOK IN FRONT OF YOU!!

Protective and Supportive

I know it's been a very long time since I did a post. This one deals with things that I have seen going on around me. Guys a woman needs to know that they can look to you to be their "ROCK" and be there when they need the love and support of the man that they are with. Whether it be supporting them in their sexuality or their wanting to try new things like going back to school, being a stay at home mom for your kids. SUPPORT THEM A "MAN" should never put his hands on a woman physically that he says he "LOVES" in anger. A woman wants to fell the love of her man emotional and physically. Emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse in that physical abuse may leave temporary scares but emotional abuse leaves longer lasting scares that can't be seen. Please guys don't act like "BOYS" and be all macho by beating up on your woman. A woman loved is the best thing in the world. Like Tupac said: And since we all came from a woman Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman I wonder why we take from our women. Why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think it's time to kill for our women Time to heal our women, be real to our women And if we don't we'll have a race of babies That will hate the ladies, that make the babies And since a man can't make one He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one So will the real men get up I know you're fed up ladies, but keep your head up LADIES KEEP YOUR HEAD UP...There will be brighter days ahead.

Love Languages Revisited

When I started this Blog awhile back I said I was going to start talking about the 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman. Let's finally learn what the love languages are: 1. Words of affirmation.... According to Dr. Chapman, this language uses words to affirm other people. ... 2. Quality time... This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. ... 3. Receiving gifts... Obviously this language can be an expensive or a thrifty one. 4. Acts of service... Doing the laundry, doing the dishes or just something that needs to get done 5. Physical touch... This one can be the most demanding one of all of them cause some people don't like to be touched in anyway. So if this one is what you feel is your Love Language express it to your significant other. If you want to know what your Love Language is check out this website: Let me know which of these you want me to dive it to more deeply. Till the next time.

Problems in Love..and life!!

With all the problems that are going on in the world relationships should not be one of them. A relationship that has become stale and not moving forward but backwards is the type of relationship that will make one of the partners to seek a side relationship. A relationship where only 1 person is willing to SACRIFICE is just that a SINGLE relationship. Whereas a relationship where both partners SACRIFICE to each other is a healthy and enjoyable one. Seek out the ONE and then prepare to SACRIFICE so that both can enjoy what only some actually do, a life filled with LOVE.

For the kids..

Guys and Gals when you are in a relationship where one or both of you has children from another mother or father please I beg of you do not and I repeat do not use them as pawns in you conquest to make the other coparent adgitated it only does more harm then helping. Childern emulate there surroundings and can often lash out at the wrong set of parents that are trying to help out.