Yeah I know where the hell have you been. Well there is this thing called Life and sometimes I forget that this is here sometimes. In the past we have talked and even worked through some of these but here is a Reminder of the 5 Love Languages Love language #1: Words of affirmation...Compliments Love language #2: Acts of service....Helping out Love language #3: Gifts....Small trinkits Love language #4: Quality time...Being with each other Love language #5: Physical touch...A hug, back rub etc. If all else fails remember these,

The Settlement

There are many thing in life you settle on, a house,a court case, a long term career,but love is not one of them. When in a relationship the words "I can't believe I settled for you", "there are so many people I could be with right now", should never come out of your mouth. When you say those words they can only mean one of two things in a relationship that you are no longer "in love" with your special person or that you are looking else where for affection with someone else. Long distance relationships make it harder especially when someone has said those words out of spite or anger because when you are supposed to be with. The ultimate settlement in Love is settling down and starting a family with your special person and growing old with them. I have found my special somebody and happily settled down with her for the past 10 years with many more to go.

Brownie Points don't Mean Anything

Today I want to discuss what exactly is a "Brownie Point". To me a "brownie point" is a guilt action that needs someone to recognize that you have done something. When in reality it is just a person doing something for a person after they have already done something that they shouldn't have and is trying to make it up to the other person. Guys if you feel like you need to "earn brownie points" then you need to look at yourself and figure out if you have stepped out on your significant other and are using your "guilty points" to make it up to your significant other.

Whats Right In Front of You...

Wow its been a really long time since I decided to sit down and and put fingers to keyboard. Why do guys go looking for other things then what is right in front of them. Need to boost their own ego. Make them feel like all the woman of the world want them or just the need to get themselves off by making a female think that there is a possibility that more will come about just talking. Wife and I don't hide anything from each other so our Facebook tabs are always available for each other to look at. Random guy messages my wife to pay her a compliment about what she looked like when we were at our daughters wedding last year. The compliments were harmless, the problem with it is the fact that he has a GIRLFRIEND. We asked him if his girl knows that he messages random girl and he says "she knows but does't like it". Hello...try being more attentive to the one in front of you then going to look for random people that are mutual friends with a bunch of other mutual friends on Facebook. Guys remember that the Love Languages of woman are very much different then ours. Fill her tank and you both will be happy. Reminder of the 5 Love Language Love language #1: Words of affirmation...Compliments Love language #2: Acts of service....Helping out Love language #3: Gifts....Small trinkits Love language #4: Quality time...Being with each other Love language #5: Physical touch...A hug, back rub etc Till the next time LOOK IN FRONT OF YOU!!

Protective and Supportive

I know it's been a very long time since I did a post. This one deals with things that I have seen going on around me. Guys a woman needs to know that they can look to you to be their "ROCK" and be there when they need the love and support of the man that they are with. Whether it be supporting them in their sexuality or their wanting to try new things like going back to school, being a stay at home mom for your kids. SUPPORT THEM A "MAN" should never put his hands on a woman physically that he says he "LOVES" in anger. A woman wants to fell the love of her man emotional and physically. Emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse in that physical abuse may leave temporary scares but emotional abuse leaves longer lasting scares that can't be seen. Please guys don't act like "BOYS" and be all macho by beating up on your woman. A woman loved is the best thing in the world. Like Tupac said: And since we all came from a woman Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman I wonder why we take from our women. Why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think it's time to kill for our women Time to heal our women, be real to our women And if we don't we'll have a race of babies That will hate the ladies, that make the babies And since a man can't make one He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one So will the real men get up I know you're fed up ladies, but keep your head up LADIES KEEP YOUR HEAD UP...There will be brighter days ahead.

Love Languages Revisited

When I started this Blog awhile back I said I was going to start talking about the 5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman. Let's finally learn what the love languages are: 1. Words of affirmation.... According to Dr. Chapman, this language uses words to affirm other people. ... 2. Quality time... This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. ... 3. Receiving gifts... Obviously this language can be an expensive or a thrifty one. 4. Acts of service... Doing the laundry, doing the dishes or just something that needs to get done 5. Physical touch... This one can be the most demanding one of all of them cause some people don't like to be touched in anyway. So if this one is what you feel is your Love Language express it to your significant other. If you want to know what your Love Language is check out this website: Let me know which of these you want me to dive it to more deeply. Till the next time.

Problems in Love..and life!!

With all the problems that are going on in the world relationships should not be one of them. A relationship that has become stale and not moving forward but backwards is the type of relationship that will make one of the partners to seek a side relationship. A relationship where only 1 person is willing to SACRIFICE is just that a SINGLE relationship. Whereas a relationship where both partners SACRIFICE to each other is a healthy and enjoyable one. Seek out the ONE and then prepare to SACRIFICE so that both can enjoy what only some actually do, a life filled with LOVE.

For the kids..

Guys and Gals when you are in a relationship where one or both of you has children from another mother or father please I beg of you do not and I repeat do not use them as pawns in you conquest to make the other coparent adgitated it only does more harm then helping. Childern emulate there surroundings and can often lash out at the wrong set of parents that are trying to help out.

The Whole Package...

Guys and ladies when you start to get involved with the lady/guy friend that you assume that you might like to be with remember that some have children from other relationships that didn't quite work out for whatever reason. These children are part of the "whole package" that you must decide whether you accept both of them or not at all..for when you chose to be with them they start to gain the trust that you will not leave. Most children of parents that aren't together tend to be very depressed and tend to act out more because they want to be noticed by the birth parent which sometimes causes tension with the new person in their life but all in all they just want to be heard. Please remember that the only way to enjoy the new life that you are looking to start with is to accept that you will be different in the end by accepting the "Whole Package". Till tomorrow..

Been a long time...

Been a very long time since I posted anything to my little baby blog..but I feel as though I was helping out people that really need that little push to find themselves and their partner that they wanted to be with so as of today I will try to make sure I post something new daily.

Starting Back to the Basics

Been a while since I wrote anything on this blog, so here it goes!! Was asked by my wife the other day if I was going to start putting anything in my GGTWR blog cause she hadn't seen anything in it for a while so I figured I would start it back up and try to help others that need it. The first thing that I have to remind everyone I don't try to call myself a doctor or a psychiatrist, or even a relationship counselor...but I have been in may relationships both very good to the baddest..If you want me to answer something just ask!!

The Teenage Feeling

For those of us that are no longer a "teenager", and have been out of the dating scene for a long time due to being a grown up in the real world..in other words married with kids. It's hard to think of yourself getting back out there and actually dating someone again...well for me that has happened most recently and as the blog title says I have that "teenager" feeling again of the wanting to see my sweetheart as much as possible or to hear her voice on the other line, and now in the electronic era that we live in, I can't wait to receive that..Morning babe..text that says I have been thing of you and I'm here for you today. I kinda like this feeling and know that it grows from here so untill next time if you have any questions ask them...

New Year...Same Me

Was going through my blog today and realized that I haven't started anything for the 2013, so with that being said if you want me to answer any question about what I have seen and been through and might just be able to help you....Leave me a message at **GGTWR or **44897 and if you don't want your name out there let me know when u message me..

Two Way Street

As I am sitting here thinking of things to write or actually type, I have to think of a couple of occasions of talking to friends and hearing how they can't figure out what the other is thinking....So here it goes.. As with any in life it is a give and take thing, what you give to the relationship should never be more than what you are willing to give to the relationship. Now for the game of chicken...most relationships don't happen by accident like a game of chicken with an 18 wheeler..they start out as two cars going by each other on the opposite sides of the road, one of you just happens to notice the other and you pull over to exchange names and numbers.. If this exchange happens then you are no longer on the two way street..you are now on the one way road that will either be a dead end road for some or it will be a path that leads you to each other more often.. I have set up a STAR STAR account for anyone that wants to send me questions that you want to ask but don't want to post it here...to reach that dial **GGTWR on your phone...Hope to hear from you....

A time for intimacy and a time for "LOVE"

Guys have you every asked the woman that you are with if they want to be intimate or if they want to make love...bet most of you haven't.. Guys it's not that hard of a thing to do..better yet on one of the nights that you really think you might get "lucky" try just telling her that you want to lay down beside her and stroke her hair till she falls asleep...that my friends is "LOVE"

Sorry for the Delay...

I just noticed that it has been a couple of months since I posted anything, for that I am truly sorry..A lot has been going on within my family and within my heart as well. For starters my daughter Caitlyn was diagnosed with Stage IV Hodgkin Lymphoma just two months shy of her 14th birthday...that alone will turn any persons world upside down but as a father this not only took the winds out of my sail, but had me wanting to do everything within me to take away that pain. That is the pain within my heart knowing that this is her fight and after all is said and done she will emerge stronger and more beautiful as a caterpillar turning into a butterfly.

Something to ponder

Something for you to think about...You have to let go of someone to let a better one take the place of the one that treats you wrong...You need someone that will not walk in front of or behind you but besides you through everything..if you find that person take that chance don't let them pass you by..

The "Player" or Being "Played"

As I have been going through this small journey of enlightening other on how to deal with woman within relationships I feel that I may have fallen into that trap of "BEING PLAYED".

I say this because for the last couple of months I had been seeing someone and thought everything was going as well as it could be, but then I realized that there was no passion within this relationship and it basically fizzled out. Reason no passion, she had another on the side and was basically dragging me along.

Well that all changed cause now I'm back to the old me, my kids come first above all else and if that special person comes along or is already here I will know it soon enough, till then "SINGLE" I shall be.

Guys just remember that even though you might want to think of yourself as a "PLAYER", remember that within the "GAME" one of you is going to get "PLAYED".

Think of the Kids FIRST....

I had a conversation with a friend of mine yesterday, I won't mention any names to protect the innocent ones...THE KIDS...but during this conversation we got to talking about how men and women do stuff that not only hurts the other party involved but at the same time hurts the KIDS more.

During the conversation I pointed this out to her..."guys don't realize and some women too that just because you are going through or are already divorced..that the kids are the ones that suffer by you being the idiot in the situation..".

I have another friend of mine that is going through a little harder situation cause the father refuses to basically interact with his own child..or if he does set up a time and date to be with his child he cancels out. Guys and Gals it took two to tango and make the kids, own up to your responsibility and if you say you are going to do something then you darn for sure better stop the world you live in and make sure that the KIDS are first.

Another thing that guys need to realize within this situation is that when you hurt the child MOMMA BEAR protects her cubs and if you don't want to see the teeth stay out of the trap..JUST SAYING

Now I know I am going to take the flack for this comment but I don't really care because I know that when it all comes down to it I make sure that my kids are provided for FIRST, I pay my child support ahead of time so that way nothing can be said about that. As far as other things that my kids want they know that if daddy has the resources to get what they need they will get it,if not then they wait. I have always tried to be the civil one in this situation and my older two see that DADDY is at least trying.

to: MY PRECIOUS THREE (MP3)

DADDY LOVES YOU AND WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR YOU>>>ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS ASK...

Till the next time...LOVE yourself, but LOVE THEM MORE...

Mr. Right not Mr. Right Now....

In the past week I have had the pleasure of talking to a couple of my "lady friends"...seems as though a reoccurring theme has developed amongst them...not finding Mr. Right.....and settling for Mr. Right Now..Even though they have been listening to my advice on this blog they still dropped their standards to be with someone that'd they normally wouldn't date.

Ladies if he is saying all the right things to you....trust yourself that he probably isn't Mr. Right but is Mr. Right Now...the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.

Keep your head and standards up and you will find Mr. Right soon enough...